Biblical Manhood

WHAT DOES GODLY MASCULINITY LOOK LIKE?

“The tendency today is to stress the equality of men and women by minimizing the unique significance of our maleness or femaleness…. Confusion over the meaning of sexual personhood today is epidemic.The consequence of this confusion is not a free and happy harmony among gender-free persons …but more divorce, more homosexuality, more sexual abuse, more promiscuity, more social awkwardness, and more emotional distress and suicide that come with the loss of God-given identity.”  John Piper

The World’s Message About Masculinity

1.  It Views the very subject of male/female differences as destructive.

In our secular, feminized culture, there is resistance to even discussing masculinity or femininity; we have to apologize for even mentioning male/female differences.  It is assumed that even mentioning differences is sexist. But making generalizations is fundamental to the way human beings think.  It is using the generalizations to put other’s down that is the sin.  Our culture is about “personhood,” not masculinity or femininity.

But Paul Jewett points out: “Sexuality permeates one’s individual being to its very depth; it conditions every facet of one’s life as a person. As the self is always aware of itself as an ‘I,’ so this ‘I’ is always aware of itself as himself or herself.  Our self-knowledge is indissolubly bound up not simply with our human being but with our sexual being.  Man As Male and Female

God has created no sexless human beings.  “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.”  Gen. 1:27

2.  It seeks to strip boys of their masculine identity.

“You need to know, Dad, that your son and thousands like him are presently being stripped of their maleness by a modern, secular, feminist, culture. Over the last few decades this culture has steadily and relentlessly undermined healthy notions of what it means to be a man.”  Robert Lewis, Raising A Modern-Day Knight

Efforts have been made to push girls to play with trucks and boys to play with dolls, but every parent knows this “socialization” is futile.

As John Eldredge points out, “Capes and swords, camouflage, bandannas and six-shooters— these are the uniforms of boyhood.  Little boys yearn to know they are powerful, they are dangerous, they are someone to be reckoned with. How many parents have tried in vain to prevent little Timmy from playing with guns? Give it up. If you do not supply a boy with weapons, he will make them with whatever materials are at hand. My boys chew their graham crackers into the shape of hand guns at the breakfast table. Every stick or fallen branch is a spear, or better, a bazooka. Despite what many modern educators would say, this is not a psychological disturbance brought on by violent television or chemical imbalance. Aggression is part of the masculine design; we are hardwired for it.   Wild at Heart

3.  It no longer views masculinity as a noble calling to strength, courage, and sacrifice but as a problem to be overcome.

Contrast this attitude to the biblical perspective:  “I am about to go the way of all the earth,” he said. “So be strong, act like a man, and observe what the LORD your God requires: Walk in obedience to him, and keep his decrees and commands, his laws and regulations, as written in the Law of Moses. Do this so that you may prosper in all you do and wherever you go.”  1 Kings 2:2-3

A BIBLICAL VISION OF MASCULINITY

“The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to WORK it and KEEP it.” Gen. 2:15

1.  “Work it” =  (Heb. “avad,”) work, serve, labor, cultivate, bear fruit, produce, build, shape

Amplification:  To order, build, shape the environment

“We are to called to ‘work’ whatever ‘field’ God has given us…Christian men should desire to cultivate something worthwhile for the glory of God and the well-being of their fellow man.”  Richard Phillips, The Masculine Mandate

“Work it” =  To Produce/Provide –he bears fruit to provide the sustenance for his family

2.  “Keep it” =  (Heb. “shamar,”) guard, protect, watch-over

 Amplification:  The word is used of soldiers, shepherds, priests, custodians, government officials

“This calling, to keep rounds out the masculine mandate of the Bible. A man is not only to wield the plow, but also to bear the sword.  Being God’s deputy lord in the garden, Adam was not only to make it fruitful but to keep it safe.” Phillips, The Masculine Mandate

“Keep it” =  To Protect --He is designed to be a warrior!

3.  Concerning the dance with woman

• Adam is brought to the garden “to work it and take care of it.”  Eve however is brought to the man to be a “suitable helper” for him. 
• His focus is the world.  In some ways he stands between his family and the world—protecting them from harm from the world and equipping them to be successful in the world (Gen. 2:15, 18)Her focus is her husband and eventually her family.  (Gen. 2:15, 18) Eve’s orientation in this subduing is ordering her family and home.  (Prov. 31:1-31)
• After their sin, Adam’s punishment concerns his primary task—cultivating the garden, and Eve’s punishment concerns her primary task caring for her husband and children.  (Gen. 3:16-19)
• Adam is given the leadership role in the relationship. This means he is not passive but takes initiative.
• Christian husbands are to love their wives as Christ loves his.   Like Jesus, we are called to:

Pursue her

Protect her

Provide for her

Summary of Paired Polarities:

Masculine Orientation                       Feminine Orientation

                To initiate                                 To respond

                To lead                                     To assist

                To provide                               To nurture

                To protect                                 To beautify

HOW THE FALL IMPACTS OUR MASCULINITY

To initiate           Selfish pursuit, or passivity

To lead               Overly-controlling, harsh, or abdication of leadership

To provide          Providing material but not emotional need, or financial irresponsibility

To protect           Overly protecting, or protecting families physically but not spiritually and emotionally  

MASCULINITY DEFINITIONS

“At the heart of mature masculinity is a sense of benevolent responsibility to lead, provide for, and protect women in ways appropriate to a man’s differing relationships.”  John Piper, “A Vision of Biblical Complementarity”

“A real man rejects passivity, accepts responsibility, and leads courageously for the greater reward.” Robert Lewis, Raising a Modern Day Knight

“Every man needs an adventure to live, a beauty to rescue, and a battle to fight.”  John Eldredge, Wild at Heart

DISTILLED ESSENCE OF MASCULINITY

Overview

Reject passivity, accept responsibility for your mission--to rule your life and world for your King.

3 Facets:

Provide: Sacrifice to meet others needs--love.

Protect: Be a warrior—fight the good fight.       

Pursue your woman & God’s goals for your family.  Take the initiative—lead

Heart Motivation:

Allegiance to your commanding officer--loyalty to the High King and His Kingdom

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